What better time than Valentine’s Day to ask this question: Do you believe in love at first sight?
Seriously: Is that something you not only wistfully wish for, but actively believe in? That super-strong, hella-romantic, “Princess Bride” kind of love, the kind that death cannot stop, only delay for a little while? Twoo wuv? That will fowwow you fowevah?
OK, apply that to your significant other. Whether you’re married or dating, ask yourself if the strength of your relationship is defined, or at least enhanced, by one of those love-at-first-sight moments. Is that how you met your significant other? Was there a magical moment of first contact?
If you believe in love at first sight, then that means, logically, that being gay is not a choice. And because that is true, there is no logical reason to have laws that keep gay people from getting married.
Consider: If you believe in love at first sight, then you believe that our romantic feelings are subject to fate, that humans are puzzle pieces just waiting to find their perfect fit and be part of a bigger picture. That means it might be someone of the same sex that awakens your soul. If you believe in love at first sight, or soulmates, then you believe in giving up your choice in whom you love.
And isn’t marriage about being with the one you love?
I’m happy to hear that Washington has joined the ranks of states that will allow gay marriage (the recently passed measure still has some hurdles to overcome). I live in a state that thinks quite the opposite: Missouri voters — 70 percent of them — passed a state constitutional amendment in 2004 that defines marriage as between one man and one woman. I was a proud member of the 30 percent minority.
I could go off on a few tangents here, notably about how Rick Santorum’s thoughts about gay people being the same as people who practice bestiality are downright scary, how Santorum’s views about gay people will scare away moderates and give the election to Obama, etc. But I’m still just shocked that people who believe in the Constitution would approve of such an unconstitutional act of prejudice against gay people. It’s inequality, plain and simple.
I understand that a lot of religious people find anything gay distasteful, and that’s their right to think so. I’m not asking them to approve of gay people or tolerate a gay couple. But they must acknowledge that a ban on marriage for gay people is unconstitutional. And if they believe that government should get off of people’s backs, then they should stop standing in the way of gay people seeking equality.
This is true love we’re talking about. You think this kind of thing happens every day?